July 17, 2008
When you experience a loss, life as you once knew it has come to an end. You may experience feelings of denial, sadness, anger, guilt, fear, or loneliness. Rabbi Earl Grollman said, “When we lose a parent, we lose our past. When we lose a spouse, we lose our present. And when we lose a child, we lose a future.” Each loss is unique and as unique as the relationship we had with the person who died. Each loss is different. Each of us has our own individual ways of coping with loss. You may be all right one minute & hit rock bottom the next minute. Grieving is normal and natural. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve. We cannot prevent or alleviate it. The only way out is to work through it. Grief work takes time. Each individual follows their own grief timetable.
Healthy Grieving Tips: Take care of yourself. Be patient with yourself. Exercise regularly. Eat a properly balanced diet and drink plenty of healthy fluids. Get adequate rest. Take one day at a time. Ask for help when you need it. Know that it is OK to feel sad. It’s OK to feel good & to laugh. It’s OK to cry. It’s OK to talk with others about your loved one. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Try not to make any major changes right away. Consider attending a support group. Meadowlark Hospice has support groups that focus on learning about grief and loss. For further information, please contact the Meadowlark Hospice office at (785) 632-2225.
Kendra Schurle, RN BSN
Meadowlark Hospice Program Director